Do you ever look at someone and think, wow, I would love to be just like them when I’m older? Emily Kassay is that person for me. Emily is one of the most amazing women I know, and I got a chance to interview her, yeah that's right I got to interview my idol. This interview was one of the most interesting things I have ever done. In my interview, I got to learn new important lessons and struggles from Emily. She helped me relate to her a lot more and realize that everyone has certain struggles, not just me. I wondered what Emily's adolescence was like for a while, I am glad that I finally got to hear her story. And let me tell you, Emily’s adolescents were hard. But now that she is older and has a family she shows me that no matter what your adolescents, your adulthood can still be very smooth and put together.
Emily Kassay is 45 years old and grew up in Denver Colorado. She went to Fort Lewis College and is a school teacher. Her relationship with her parents was probably the hardest part of her adolescents. Emily grew up with parents that were split. They got divorced when she was only six months old. Emily mostly grew up with her mom and sister. She and her dad didn’t have as much of a relationship, because she held a lot of anger from him. Except for the occasional summers and Christmases that she spent with him. This was very hard for her, she struggled with a lot of things because her dad wasn't a big part of her life. She had somewhat of a relationship with her mom but she wishes that it would have been a lot closer. She realized as she got older that her dad had done some messed up things, and she is just now finding a way to forgive him. I know how hard it can be to not have a strong relationship with your parents. Sometimes it can change fast and you don’t know exactly where you stand with them. It can at times be very hard and confusing. Emily told me that because she didn’t have a great relationship with her parents, she had to become independent a lot sooner than most kids. This is a huge part of adolescents. I believe that some kids have a hard time when they are adults because they didn’t ever become independent in their adolescents. They then have a very hard time transferring into their adulthood. Those people usually are not very successful in their adulthood either. This is why Emily has been so successful as an adult, she had to teach herself to be on her own.
Everyone says that school is one of the hardest parts of your adolescents, for Emily this is true. Emily went to a school that was mostly full of rich kids who could pretty much have anything they wanted. She, however, did not have much money and she didn’t have as much support from her parents. Her school was a very important part of her life. She mostly focused on her social life and grades because she wanted to go to college. However, she wasn't very connected to her high school, which she regrets. She says that she could have been a lot better of a student. In her interview, Emily explained, “I think in school I pretty much just kept my head down and did what I needed to do”. She felt like she had to try and be someone different. At her school, she did, however, find people to align with. Emily was a dancer but not through the school. She wasn’t involved in any school activities or clubs. She learned that no matter what, her work would pay off. She also didn't have as many opportunities as most kids around her because she didn’t have as much money. Her social life in high school was “pretty good” she had good friends that stuck around all through high school, and she and her four close friends did everything together. She had a boyfriend that lasted almost through high school, he didn’t go to the same school as her witch “made it nice”. Now that she looks back she realizes that he wasn’t good for her and she regrets spending so much of her time on him. The biggest lesson she learned from her friends was not to be stupid with partying or boys. If Emily could go back to school, she said, “I would take away the pressure of trying to fit in with the rich kids”. She also wishes she would have engaged in her teachers more. She now realizes that they just wanted to help her. Emily’s school was another really hard part of her adolescents. This is true for a lot of people. In school, there is a lot of pressure on you to fit in. Where in reality we don’t need to fit in with everyone, because everyone should be themselves. For me, the school has gotten easier as I’ve gotten older because I have found ways to mature and grow into a confident person. This is not true for all people. All people need to realize that school is hard, however, we will all find ways to get through it successfully. While making ourselves feel loved and cared about.
Emily has always been someone that I look up to and love as a person. After I learned about her adolescents it made me a lot closer to her and it made it very easy to relate to her. As she talked about all of her experiences, I found ways to make connections between how mine is and how hers was similar. Emily’s adolescents were hard, but she got through it. She taught me that I can get through any hard times that come my way. That's important to today's adolescents because kids have a hard time with a lot but they can all get through those hard times and work more on being themselves. All kids are different and sometimes it seems like we are not okay with that but as a community, we need to find a way to accept everyone and their flaws.